In todays world, we are all caught up with wanting to not only individually grow, but to maximize our relationship satisfaction. I am sure we all remember sayings like: "You get back what you put in." or "You get what you give." Well, I am here to tell you that after 30 years of marriage, you have to continually work on yourself more than your spouse. I recently read an article about this topic and it led me to write this blog. It was directed towards what women should be giving to their spouse. I wanted to bring this to you as both parties should be doing the 10 items coherently. Not just the one sided. Granted, I don't always get things right and I can admit that, but here we go!!!
1. The Room To Chase - Your spouse desires the room to chase their own dreams & inspirations. This reflects a partners trust and belief in their capabilities.
2. Variety - This involves embracing spontaneity, trying new experiences, and keeping things interesting.
3. RESPECT - This involves valuing your spouses opinions, acknowledging their strengths, and treating them as an equal partner. This builds a very strong relationship, but this also requires knowing your place in the relationship and respecting yourself first.
4. Your TRUST - This signifies belief in your spouses character, decisions, and their loyalty. This creates a sense of security, intimacy, and emotional connection. This builds mutual trust as you "Get what you Give."
4.1. Space - Respecting each others need for independence, hobbies, and personal time. This shows trust & appreciation for individuality.
5. & 6. Compliments & Appreciation - Genuine praise for their efforts, achievements, and qualities. This boosts confidence, strengthens emotional connect, and shows that you value their contributions.
7. Initiation - This involves taking the lead in planning dates, initiating conversations, and expressing affection. This builds respect and strengthens the emotional bond between you and your spouse.
8. A BUDDY - This is not just a romantic partner, but also a Friend. Sharing laughter, crying together, hobbies, and supporting each others goals. This builds a strong emotional support system.
9. Acceptance of your spouses help - This signifies trust & appreciation for their efforts, whether it is with tasks, decisions, or emotional support. It validates them as a partner in your relationship.
10. Spontaneity & Passion - This encompasses unexpected gestures, adventurous activities, and expressing affection in a spontaneous manner. This can be large or small things. "It not just the thought that counts, its the actions."
I hope somehow this gives you some basic advice to bettering your relationships. Just remember that ALL CHANGE starts within yourself. We can never expect others to change if we are not wiling to do it ourselves. I hope you have a blessed week. Thanks!
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